Let’s all be understanding

**Note** My friend Amy wrote the post below and it is exactly how I have been feeling, so I had to share her well thought out message. I’m sure many of you would also agree with much of what she shares ❤

It breaks my heart to see how hateful and intolerant some people have become on Facebook lately (not to me, just in general). When are we going to realize that we all come from different circumstances that contribute to the way we think and act? I can understand if you don’t agree with someone else, but maybe you can try to find some compassion to understand where someone might be coming from. The intolerance and hateful comments by adults will never cease to amaze me. Would you let your kids talk to or about other kids like that? If not, maybe you should think about the words you use to talk about people who have beliefs and opinions that differ from you.

“It would be easy for me to tell you to stay home and never leave your house except to go to the store every 7-10 days like me. However, not everyone is in my situation and I am well aware of that. I work from home. Not much has changed for me. My kids are teenagers and are independent. I’ve actually felt like I’ve seen less of them since all this started because I’m working longer days than usual.”(my situation)

I am going to write some things here and if you have not considered these points yet, maybe you should take some time to reflect on them before you continue to be judgmental and opinionated (if you are).

You may think everyone should stay at home because you work the front lines and know first hand how terrible this virus is and you don’t want anyone else to get sick or die, including yourselves. You have seen the worst of the worst and just want it to end. I can definitely understand this.

You may think the country should open up because you didn’t qualify for a short-term business loan and may lose your business, everything you have worked for, and your livelihood. I can absolutely understand that.

You may think everyone should stay at home because you have lost a loved one from this terrible virus and you never want someone else to go through what you went through. I can definitely understand that.

You may think the country should open up because you have no savings and have not yet received your stimulus check and have no money to buy food or support your family. I can absolutely understand that.

You may think everyone should stay at home because you are scared to death to get sick or spread this virus to someone else. I can definitely understand that.

You may think the country should open up because you have a medical problem that is not yet considered an emergency, but you are scared it could become one and have a catastrophic result while doctors/dentist/etc are closed for non-emergencies. I can absolutely understand that.

You may think everyone should stay at home because you live in a nice comfortable house with room for your family and it is a good environment. I can definitely understand that.

You may think the country should open up because you live in an uncomfortable or abusive home and you are scared for your life or can’t handle being there. I can understand that.

You may think everyone should stay home so they can play games and spend quality time with their families. I can absolutely understand that.

You may think the country should open up because you live alone and can’t stand the quiet and loneliness anymore and don’t have anyone to help you. I can definitely understand that.

You may think everyone should stay at home because you are afraid this pandemic will become a never-ending situation if people don’t stay at home. I can absolutely understand that.

You may think the country should open up because you are depressed from being home without friends or something to keep you busy or happy. Or maybe you realize you are becoming depressed because you can’t see the “light at the end of the tunnel” and have lost your hope. Maybe you are even afraid this will lead to suicide if you don’t get out. I can definitely understand that.

I could go on forever…

There are so many variables that we should think about that would cause people to think and react in different ways than you and if you can only see one side right now, open up your eyes and try to have compassion for others that may be in a different situation than you. And then keep that outlook and perspective when this ends, so we can heal the division in the country. Maybe this situation will only end when we learn some valuable lessons, which many people obviously still have to learn.

Be kind, be understanding, be compassionate, be tolerant, be loving. It’s really not that hard. 💜

Love all of these thoughts, Amy. 💜
Expressed so perfectly! #DoYou #BeKind #StopJudging

About Kate Kresse

I love to write, I love to talk, I love to uplift people when I can. I am a woman in love with life. I am a wife, mom, tutor, writer, and I am a perennial optimist. (OK not every single minute but you get the point! :-)
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3 Responses to Let’s all be understanding

  1. Absolutely agree with her. We all have different circumstances but we can still be kind and stop judging others.

  2. Gwen07 says:

    I completely agree. I live in western, rural NY — Earlier this week, I drove north from southern Florida and have seen the increasing concern about safety precautions the further north I drove. I understand that each person has their own reasons for covering up and not covering up. Some people quake at the idea that a state government is demanding we do so along with staying home. I can understand these emotions – I’ve lived long enough to remember the fight against the state mandating use of car seatbelts! What I don’t understand, and consequently many on social media don’t understand hence the “humor” is the type of American who grabs his/her AR 15, carry signs give me liberty or give me death, carrying confederate flags and signs that imply that only blacks are dying so it’s okay to be in public – all this viral because they are being told to stay home and use protective covering if you go out in public. And, what I find most unforgivable is the image of a protester behind the wheel of a brand new pickup, in a stand off with men and women in hospital medical garb! These medical professionals have seen death up close and personal yet protestors rally in complete ignorance and lack of respect for the job 1st responders, drs. and nursers and all those in healthcare. This lack of respect for the needs and lives of others – I find unforgivable. These protestors could very well use their energy to help at local food banks, meals-on-wheels – and other activities that would help – but they’ve chosen to protest. So, I understand the helplessness some people can feel when they read the newspapers or watch the news and see people behaving in such nasty offensively partisan and anti-life affirming behavior. As an educator, seeing young people screaming their ignorance of the constitution and basic human rights – hurts to no end. Yes, we should be nicer to people and in fact if we choose we can find many incidences of kindness and decency. If you’re not finding it on facebook — just know, many people choose to vent their frustration in many ways.

  3. Janet says:

    Well said ♥️🙏🏼

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