Milestones, Stepping Stones, Millstones

I was thinking about milestones in life. Author Gail Sheedy used to call some of them Passages. On a trip, or when doing a difficult hike, or in sales targets in the case of a sales person, there are often milestones that one sets as a personal goal or as proof of achievement. In life, there are often significant milestones in life. Examples of these include: entering kindergarten; graduating from high school; graduating from college; getting that first post college job; getting married; having children; the empty nest; retirement. There are milestone birthdays: becoming a teenager; reaching voting age; turning 21: entering the various decades; turning 65; and so forth.

Why do we mark or make note of these milestones? Typically, each implies a strategy shift. Now I recently turned 65. So I have been thinking about that. To answer the question you may have, no I am not retiring. I am however, thinking about stones. To be specific, in reconfiguring my strategies and priorities I am using different filters than before. The shift is not because it is required. However, the shift could not happen until I had accumulated sufficient life experiences in specific areas resulting in the right kind of wisdom for me. This is not to say it will be the same for anyone else.

I said I am thinking about stones. I am examining people, places, things, responsibilities and more. The first question is which people, things and activities help me to stay on my mission. These would be touchstones and stepping stones. By that I do not mean I walk on them. I do mean that because of them I am encouraged to stay on God’s path (analogy could be a bridge or guard rail). Then there are people, things, and responsibilities that bring emotional clutter, things that bring me way down, and do not feed my soul. Let’s face it, everyone has some of that. Sometimes it is unavoidable, I will grant you that. But make no mistake about it. These are millstones. However, when you are at a certain stage of life’s journey, you must stay on your path and guide others to theirs as well.  Let go of millstones and stick to the path. It is a legacy and mission I believe we each have.

So perhaps the milestone I am thinking about is a big sign that says: Girl, the best is yet to be. Fight the good fight. Continue to run your race. You have running buddies to accompany you. I am still a perennial optimist. I continue to believe it is important, in these times, to believe anyway. I still believe what my mom and her sisters taught me: do not curse the darkness ~ light a candle. I say this: if you are discouraged, if you feel like you are in the dark, come over. God will light your path too. Remember: I have a candle and lots of matches. Bring your candle that you can’t light. Passages ~ milestones ~ touchstones ~ stepping forward, onward and upward.

What milestones, touchstones, stepping stones, and millstones have you noticed in life?

About Kate Kresse

I love to write, I love to talk, I love to uplift people when I can. I am a woman in love with life. I am a wife, mom, tutor, writer, and I am a perennial optimist. (OK not every single minute but you get the point! :-)
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8 Responses to Milestones, Stepping Stones, Millstones

  1. Katharine says:

    I will try to light a candle in the darkness around me in my life. The friends I had online are never darkness, but these real people over here are not to be toyed with ! 🙂

    • Kate Kresse says:

      You do light your candle and other people’s, too! You are a lighthouse!

    • Kate Kresse says:

      Well, here is a timely response! These days, I am definitely distancing my self from people who are not to be toyed with!!

      • Katharine says:

        I’ve had four grands over so mama could have a bit of a hospital stay. It’s been a workout! I actually made the switch into burning fat instead of sugar. Haha. Felt so sick, I was scared and took some elderberry syrup. Haha. (Of course that blew it.) So now I am resting because mama is back up and at ’em. Thanks for being my cheer squad lately. ❤

  2. I too just turned that 65-year milestone over. But you know what I just read? 65 is the new 45. So let’s light our candles and let them burn brightly!

  3. Jayne says:

    Sometimes one can confuse millstones and milestones, but you have outlined the difference beautifully here: how we react to them! In the spirit of the fiftieth anniversary of the moon-landing I say you light that candle, girl! 🙂

    • Kate Kresse says:

      Oh one can definitely confuse milestones and milestones! I find I need to even reevaluate at times do be sure a stepping stone or touchstone hasn’t BECOME a millstone! Thanks for your comment, Jayne. And I will definitelyight my candle!

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