Here is something I did with a student. We sat down with a pad of post-its. I had him tell me everything he could think of that was good or bad that he had done —every grade, every task, every kind or unkind thing. We tried to cover it all in about 2 hours. Then we made two different arrangements of the post-its. You know, weighing the good and the bad. Then we talked about the “bads”—if something good or positive had been learned or gained, we wrote that on it. At that point it became a good. It moved to the good section.
When we were done, we counted the goods and counted the bads. We determined the percentage. We compared that to his favorite sports figures’ percentages. Of course his goods far surpassed theirs. We compared is percentages to the percentages of oscar or grammy nominations versus wins by his favorite performers. Again he surpassed.
That is what I call perspective.