I married the best guy. He is patient and kind and loving and wonderful. He listens and inspires. He is there for me always. He is loyal and true. He makes me laugh and is a joy. Why do I tell you all that? Aw because we celebrated our 29th wedding anniversary. Where have the years gone? I don’t really know. It seems like just a few months ago we got married. Our families, extended families and beloved friends wre there.
We had a wonderful circle of friends. Jim and I knew each other for 10 years to the day the day we got married. But we didn’t date steadily the first 7 years. We were kind of on again off again for awhile. He’d date my girlfriends a bit and I’d date some of his friends. We were all just such good friends and are to this day, although we are all scattered across the country.
Our first date was a blind date, and we went to a James Taylor concert. What a lovely beginning, right? When we got married I was a corporate gal~working and working and working. Then we had a little girl. We decided before she was born we wouldn’t do daycare. Luckily we had decided that because she was born with many, many medical issues. She lived for 10 months. Then a few years later we adopted our fabulous son. by then we knew full well that we wouldn’t miss any time with him. Losing a child makes you really value every moment with the next child(ren). Losing anyone makes you treasure time with the rest of the people in your life.
Anyway, so here we are 29 years later. Still crazy about each other. Still seeing each other through crazy times and crazy ups and downs that life sends our way. We made a fun dinner to celebrate over the weekend! We had salad, split pea soup, sauteed mushrooms and red peppers, roasted brussel sprouts, steak, and then some strawberries for dessert. Delicious!
I said to him this morning, “ummm maybe I shouldn’t have ranted on my blog; it makes me look like a cranky lunatic”…”No, sweetie—it just makes you look like a real person~with opinion, passion, love for life and zeal for truth”….Grin—I told you he was crazy about me! Of course, in reality~perhaps I got a bit too rant-y. Be patient with me, I am still growing and learning~and trying to stay authentic and kind.
I’m lucky. I’m blessed. Some days I rant, some days I tutor, some days I de-clutter, some days I write…..all days I pray….and all days I treasure those who stop in to visit my blog. Love to you.
Oh, Kate–is that what you were worrying about–ranting?? My goodness gracious–I’m with Jim, you’re authentic, real, intelligent, you have passion and opinions! We know the side of you that always sees the best, always lifts others UP, always raises the banner of your faith in our wonderful God; who loves, and chooses goodness and mercy, and kindness and peace and beauty. Give us a rant once in awhile, I say! This sister loves you and will always defend you. Congratulations to you and Jim–what a wonderful pair you are, a great example of real life romance–and here’s to many more years together, for “the best is yet to be”!! God bless y’all!!
Well~I went on for quite some time. Yesterday I was worried about it and re-read it…I changed a couple of sentences to clarify. But yeah–i still feel I had to say what I said. I felt that I could not stand by and have people in my vocation Slammed, marginalized, and minimized. Love you too and I feel the same way about you….Thanks and God bless you, too.
Our very best wishes from the UK on your anniversary 🙂
thanks so much!
Beautiful post! Congratulations to you and your husband of 29 years! That’s absolutely wonderful! God bless you both, as you celebrate each other today!
Paulette
Thanks Paulette~~ He is an awesome guy, and we are so blessed to have a loving marriage with lots of joyous times.
CONGRATULATIONS! What a beautiful example of love and marriage. I am very happy for you and your husband and pray God’s continued blessings over your lives and your marriage.
BE ENCOURAGED! BE BLESSED!
Aw, thanks so much Francine. We pray for that too 🙂
Happy Anniversary my YaYa sister! God bless you both and I know what a love you share. I cannot imagine it being any different for you Kate, and that you found your keeper makes me smile. It makes me glad in my heart that you write and share it although I would never doubt it. Thank you for that.
A rant? I missed you ranting? I dare not think this true.
Your beloved is right. You are real, you are raw, you are honest, and you are so you. I love the so you never change.
Thanks, dear heart. I found the best guy~God brought us together in such a wonderful way. As for my rant (https://believeanyway.wordpress.com/2012/04/14/how-the-womens-lib-movement-has-finally-really-really-made-me-angry/)
And the Loving side of me + skipping and singing side of me + the praying side of me + the ranting side of me seem to be a permanent condition ~ for better or worse.
Happy Anniversary to you and your husband…what a wonderful thing to share one’s life with someone who is “patient and kind and loving and wonderful”….adding in inspires, listens,loyal and true…so special!
And a rant?….oh, I’ve had a few of those…when a certain idea or deeply held value is questioned …I respond, too….not to worry.
I spent a significant amount of time yesterday counting my blessings in my life that are because of my husband. I reviewed my rant about Women’s Lib and considered yanking it….but decided that would be cowardly. You see, i felt that I must defend homemakers, because they were being maligned, minimized and marginalized. I have a major issue when people use that tactic against people. :-). So thanks for understanding!
Congrats Kate. I too have a ‘Keeper’ of many,many years. What a blessing! I didn’t think of it as a rant at all………just a wonderful Lady with love in her heart and sparkles in her eyes when she looks at her Man. All the best to you and your Guy. Hugs. Renee 🙂
Thanks Renee~~there are some things in life that toss me right up on my soapbox! Seeing people getting minimized, maligned, and marginalized really gets me riled…..Thanks for understanding!!
You are most welcome. hugs. 🙂
Happy Anniversary, Kate! You have shared a truly a beautiful tribute to your husband. Your love of life and joy in marriage shines through all you do…
he is such a wonderful, loving, passionate, great guy
I personally really enjoy your willingness to so boldly express your thoughts and encourage you to hold onto your authentic expression. A blog is the perfect place to do that! This is your space, and we visit to hear what you have to say. And it is wonderful that you have a husband who encourages you to be you! Happy anniversary, with many years to come! Blessings, Debra
Thanks Debra..gosh, you are right~I forgot! It IS my blog darn it! Thanks for that….I actually forgot that concept. How funny of me to forget that. Thanks so much. Yeh, i love my husband…he is the Bee’s Knees!
Hi, Kate! Congratulations, to you and your husband – what a celebration! 29 years!
I wish you both, continued joy for many, many years ahead!
Thank you for sharing this post with us, such a nice sharing of your family!
Happy Anniversary!
Patricia
Thanks, Patricia. It is stunning to me that it has already been that long. wow. We had a wonderful anniversary.
Happy Anniversary to an amazing couple. Rant? What rant?
a few days ago—-see the Women’s Lib post
HappyAnniversary! Just wait…30 next year! 🙂
I know~so stunning!
I always love hearing stories of couples who never lose that spark! 🙂 Congratulations on 29 years. May there be many more. 🙂
Thanks, CB! Hope your AIMS proctoring went well 🙂
Kate,
I smile everytime I read one of your lovely blogs 🙂 Today I am smiling for you and your wonderful sweetie. What a wonderful thing it is to go throught this life feeling cherished and whole in the arms of your love!!
Have a wonderful week- to both of you 🙂
Lots of love, Anne
Acres of love to you, dear loving Anne. Your incredible kindness and generosity and love continue to fill our hearts. God bless you and your dear family.
Happy Anniversary, Kate. I read your lovely blog, but I didn’t read all the comments yet. There are so many and I’m getting tired. It’s past my bed-time already. I am sure what Jim says about you, is so right. And about being angry. Remember, even Jesus got angry at times. Please, don’t feel bad about it. It was good you were able to express your feelings.Your prayers will always lead you to your true self, which is loving, gentle and forgiving. Be blessed in your marriage with a loving husband. Wishing you and your husband the very best.
Thanks sweet Uta–thanks for your kind words and lovely wishes. you are a marvel.
Lovely trubute to marriage! have 29 more lovely years!
Thanks so very much deanna!
Once again your post was a breath of fresh air. We don’t hear these stories often enough. Thanks for sharing this Kate. I always enjoy stopping by ‘your place’ for a good word. Congrats on 29 years and my your Lord grant you many, many more. ~ Mike
Thanks Mike! You are so kind and supportive. All the best to you and your wife, too.