Have you ever given someone the benefit of the doubt? I know I have. For instance, there have been times that a sales clerk has ignored me and I decided the person actually just didn’t see me. When someone ran a red light, I decided the person may be rushing to the hospital deathbed of a loved one. This takes the focus off of me and gives someone else credit for being a bigger person than the surface of their actions indicate.
I do this to try to keep from being little miss cranky-pants. It helps me to move towards unselfishness. It is easy to find fault, but hard to see a transgression and assume virtue. But I find it easier to do the more I do it. So here is how I began to make it a habit. I forced myself to have an internal conversation and come up with at least 5 reasonable explanations for the other person’s seemingly crabby, selfish or thoughtless attitude or action. It really helps! So when I say get to know the benefit of the doubt, that is one of my resolutions. After all, how can I expect anyone to be fair and kind to me unless I give each the benefit of the doubt? Right! I can’t!!