Happy Monday, Happy July

Can you believe that it is already July? My goodness the months have been flying by here. As always we each face ups, downs, challenges, losses triumphs but we believe anyway.

I do hope that this week is starting out great for you. I am amidst a certification course to become a COPE coach. That stands for Certified by the Center for Obesity Prevention and Education. Health coaching is the latest mission God has laid out for me in addition to my tutoring. Underlying each mission He has given me is the serving of those who need help. So there it is. Just when some of my tutoring is starting to feel like “not enough” I have this.

That kind of puts a spring in my step, especially since this phase requires a fair amount of reading, learning, research and communication. That is a good thing, because it takes me out of myself. Otherwise I get downhearted and frustrated and way, way, way too difficult to live with.

The weather here in Phoenix is in the 100s this week, as is to be expected. We have quiet plans for the fourth of July here. We will watch the fireworks, cook, and probably watch Yankee Doodle Dandy or 1776; these are perennial favorites of mine.

If you are looking for a yummy recipe here is one for a Vegetable Quiche that I just love. On the plan I am on, this entire quiche is one serving!

Vegetable Quiche
1cup egg beaters (or 1 cup egg white)
1/2 c lowfat part skim shredded mozzarella cheesee
1/2 c chopped brocolli
1/2 c chopped fresh mushrooms
1/2 c chopped tomatoes
[note you can sub in chopped asparagus, chopped spinach, chopped peppers in the same quantities for any of those veggies]
1/4 tsp each salt, pepper, garlic powder{optional}
1 or 2 wedges laughing cow light swiss wedges
Whisk the egg beaters, add the salt, pepper, and garlic powder and stir in. Stir everything else in. Pour into lightly greased quiche pan or 8 or 9 in round cake pan, or square pan. Bake at 325 for 25 to 35 min. Let it stand for a couple minutes.
This is SOOOO delicious.
I hope you have a lovely day. I know I am disjointed today~ but I wanted to be in touch. I wish you all love today. Gobs of love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Rubicon Moments

I don’t know if you are familiar with the movie 1776. In that movie, John Adams sings a song and mentions crossing the Rubicon and commitment. It is a powerful moment. He is referring to those point of no return, no turning back moments. You know, where you have such clarity, and there is no doubt in your mind that henceforth things will be different.. Your view, your mindset has permanently changed; no equivocation.

I reached that point this year after multiple family events that I told you about in the previous post. I discovered the truth. The truth about how some people viewed me and viewed life. I realized that I can no longer place the keys to my happiness, peace of mind, quest for joy, health in someone else’s pocket. Their views and opinions of me are not necessarily accurate. Arguing with them is pointless. The story of my life can still be one of joy.

I learned that just because someone wants me to fight, argue, view things negatively or feel down, doesn’t mean I have to go there. Instead, I can just keep marching forward. I don’t have to accommodate everyone to the detriment of my own walk with God.

Always end the day with a positive thought. No matter how hard things were, tomorrow’s a fresh opportunity to make it better. I saw this on a poster the other day. “You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”  I am committed to taking care of my heart, mind, body, and soul. Those who minimize and insult? In the past they could bring me down and get me brooding for days, if not weeks. Most days I stay strong. I don’t participate in the argument. I don’t respond to putdowns or insults. I just kind of nod and change the subject. I realize that they either can’t help it or don’t realize how soul crushing their words or body language can be. I walk away and pray as I go.

They are not welcome in my safe harbor. No, I do not tell them this. I do not even discuss it. Is that cold? I don’t think so. i can separate myself from the put downs. I just go about my tasks. No turning back. No volunteering to be a doormat in order to keep the peace. Why? Keeping the peace wasn’t really happening. There wasn’t peace.

Now, in my heart and soul, there is peace. No circumstances have changed. I just don’t let stuff erode my soul. Reaching this point has restored my relationship with God. He never left me, of course. Rather, I could not hear Him as His voice was drowned out by my ricochet reactions. The Rubicon. You bet I crossed the Rubicon. One side of the river, a crowd. The other side? Peace. God.

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Transformational Journey

I have been considering life and the multiple phases of life. It is easy to forget that each day is a gift, isn’t it? We get busy. We make our lists. We either get busy accomplishing, or we procrastinate. I just spent a few years taking care of everyone and everything but myself. As a result, my physical, emotional,and spiritual life suffered. I careened from duty to duty, and day to day. Does that happen to you?

I have been mostly absent due to many family circumstances. My mom died, my brother died after a 4 month hospitalization, another family member had 3 hospitalizations. This was all within about 11 months. All of this took its toll. I hurt all over, all the time. I was not my normal, sunny self. I was taking care of everyone but me. I decided to finally do something about all of that. I got a health coach. I started taking better care of myself. I lost 30 pounds and am on the way to losing more. I decided to become a health coach, too. I now help others on this journey. I do health assessments over the phone to help launch people on healthier journeys of their own. I coach them as they learn to transform

I am in love with healthy cooking. What is amazing to me is that for the first time, I have not self-sabotaged my progress. I do not want to return to that unhealthy feeling I had in my mind, body, and soul. I had been through a number of life-altering events and major stressors.

Now I have learned to recognize when my emotions are kidnapping me. I do my best to stop the kidnapping. This is progress. But this is why I have been absent. Life gets messy, doesn’t it? I am determined to remember that this joy and optimism is a gift, but it is also the result of transformation. I did not think I could reach this point at all. It is not just about weight loss. It is not just about cooking and food. It is about transforming everything. It is about optimal health. I believe in seizing the chance. Seize the chance to love, dance, laugh, smile, enjoy, watch the sky, plant, relax, explore and learn. You are totally worth it.

It is about making wholeness, vibrancy, self-care a priority. How? Insist upon it. You are worth it. I am worth it. Take time to learn something each day about loved ones and their day. Take time for Scripture. Take time for movement, even if it just means you stand while you watch TV instead of sit. Take time to find SOMETHING to laugh about. Eat smaller meals more often. It trains your mind and body that fueling your body trains it to not go into starvation mode.

I did not think I could find joy anymore. I wasn’t even trying to find it. I was sure it was gone forever. But here it is  again, I can be “believe anyway girl” again. That is a good thing. It was a long drought. This time is better. I am eager. By the way, let me know if you would like a health assessment. Even more importantly, let me know how your journey is going!

“Life is meant to be lived. Not managed, not controlled, not screamed, not stressed, not hurried, not guilt-ridden, not regretted, not scripted, not consumed by distractions, big or small, obvious or subtle.” ~ Rachel Macy Stafford.

 

 

 

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Thanksgiving is coming

I feel reflective each November. I think about the blessings of the past year. I think about the difficulties. This year I find myself a bit adrift. My mom, one of my biggest cheerleaders, passed away some months ago. I miss her. Yet she is in my heart, of course.

I find myself feeling vulnerable and fragile at times. Sometimes comments that would normally roll right off of me stick to me, unexpectedly crush me instead. Perhaps that us part if grief.

When criticism has come this year, as it does to all of us, I have immediately taken it to heart. I find myself holding back my opinions, feelings, and suggestions rather than come across in a way that isnt authentic to my heart. I want to do all i can to not overpower others.

I decided partway through the journey of this year that if someone is, for instance, accusing me of being nasty or uncaring, they are probably right. My job is to change how i am behaving so that people no longer feel that way about me. I apologize and say that i will work on that flaw. I thank them for letting me know. I then try to improve.

As a result, i attempt to empathize more. Again, i fall short. So this November, I am grateful i have been given more days. I continue to seek the Lord’s counsel, and ask Him to guude my thoughts, words, and actions.

I ask Him to heal my sorrow for all the times I have come across as an unkind person to anyone. As we inch toward Thanksguving, I remember so many past Thanksgivings with lovely gatherings of family and friends. May this Thanksgiving be special.

 

 

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Contemplating my mission for the next year of my life…

Well, today I celebrate my birthday. What a year it has been. The passage of time makes me reflect on what is behind me and what lies ahead. In the last year, my mom died. So this next year, I am pondering….what should my theme and mission be?

Certainly, I have prayed upon that. I wonder what God has in store for me? My mom and I used to discuss that at length. I know she would tell me to step forward boldly and that God is with me always and all ways.

She was well aware of my tendency to over analyze things and to be too self critical. So here is the thing. If I had a theme song for each year, I could provide a list. Some of my favorites would include: What a Wonderful World (Louis Armstrong); Those Were the Days My Friend; Circle Game; You’ve Got a Friend; Somewhere Over the Rainbow; Forever Young; I Will Survive; Amazing Grace; Tis a Gift to Be Simple; Irish Eyes Are Smiling;  How Great Thou Art; and so many more.

But this year, I cannot pick a song. I can’t pick one for the past year. I cannot decide what to pick for the next year. I usually have so many things to say to try and put encouraging words in my posts so that people can gain strength. I do not know how exactly to do that today. God strengthens me through it all. He provides people to encourage me. I am grateful for that. I would dearly love to gather my friends about me today, or any day for that matter.

I definitely need a theme and mission for the next year ~ it needs to be more than getting everything done on my massively overwhelming things to do list. Perhaps my mission and message needs to be to be attentive and mindful to what is TRULY important in life. Perhaps it is to reflect on what brings joy. Perhaps it means to rediscover what brings joy to my days. It conflicts at times with all that needs to get done.

I would imagine others have this push, pull in life. I feel like time is passing much too quickly. My days and evenings are far too task filled. BUT, I know that this next year is going to HAVE to contain BALANCE.

Today my wish for you is that there be some joy time or some quiet time or some time of peace.

Thank you for being here. My blogging has been far too sporadic. I appreciate you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Path I Took

It is said that we stand on the shoulders of the giants who preceded us. When I was a little girl, I planned to be a writer, business woman or teacher, wife, and mother. I had loads of great examples around me. My mom, grandmas, aunts, teachers  and friends’ moms encouraged me to learn, grow, and follow God always.

Our daughter was born with multiple birth defects and went through 8 major surgeries in her too brief life of 10 months.

As a result, when we adopted our son, every moment with him was so much more precious. I knew we are not guaranteed endless time with our children. I wanted to see him discover the world. I wanted to witness his first steps. I wanted him to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he matters and was loved beyond measure. I wanted to fill his bucket moments with love.

I have always known, but knew even more deeply after the death of my daughter, that every moment of our lives is a precious bucket moment. My time with my son has been precious,  there is no doubt about that.

The path I took has meant that I have indeed seen him discover life, the world, friendshio, knowledge, joy, heartache, and all the wondrous stuff of life.

When I was in high school and college, I had plans to be a bigshot CEO. I was going to be impressive, maybe even famous. It was the I am woman, hear me roar era.

But you see, my dreams changed. I decided to marry and hoped to have many children. God had other plans. And I know there are all kinds of women whi have career and motherhood.

He gave us a daughter for a brief while. We have a son. I lost two other children in pregnancy. I just wasn’t going to do career and motherhood. I wanted to be home with my son.

I have the privilege of being a mom to my son. I am not perfect, by any means. I have taught him what I know of the world. I have shown him how to seek God’s path. I have tried to show him how precious life is and that he is loved. Does he understand that in his soul? He doesn’t completely,  but do any of us?

I guess I am feeling reflective today. My birthday is Monday. It makes me want to rate my own strengths and weaknesses. I believe we do the best we can. I believe I have many shortcomings to work on. But I have made progress. Those who know me well are fully aware of my shortcomings, that is a fact.

So today, think about the fact that each moment of our lives can be a bucket moment. Make today special somehow. What goes in your bucket?

You are special. Joy is on the other side of pain, sorrow, and weeping.  Don’t quit before the miracles.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Be steadfast

I go through phases. Do you do that? I find that in stressful times, especially prolonged stressful times, I became emotional and reactive instead of proactive. I am driven by circumstances, rather that “believing anyway”. Is my faith weak? Not necessarily. However, during prolonged stress I get worn down.

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At those times, of course, there is something I need to do. I need to spend more time in prayer. As soon as I feel that anxiety creeping in, I need to instantly pray. I need to insistently hand those worries over to God. I need to openly state that I trust that He will provide me the grace to get through it. I need to remember that the issues or problems I, or a loved one, face can be solved.

If I am steadfast I will be insistent and determined to release that anxiety. Even if I am exhausted, I will reach out to God and remember that whatever it is that I face is survivable. No problem that I face is bigger than God.

Today I plan to do some things at home that will reduce my anxiety as well. What? Catch up on chores, paperwork, de-clutter, while I sing and pray.

“My chains are gone, I’ve been set free. For God my Savior, has ransomed me.”

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